|Family & Relationships / 1:49 PM - Monday June 25, 2012|
how often should grandparents see their grandkids, if they live close by?
i was thinking once every 2-3 weeks would be my preference, as that is about as much as im comfortable with since being around them drives me crazy. Husband is all upset, because his parents are near to our house ALL the time (grocery store, doctors visits, their church, some of their friends, etc) and he said they are going to want to come by ALOT more than what Im trying to plan out. He anticipates them calling alot and saying hey we are up the street can we stop in? I know their 'stopping in' however wouldnt be a brief visit, it would last for HOURS as once they are here they never leave. Husband also cannot ever tell them no, or get them out the door once things start dragging out too long. He thinks im being insensitive and rude, and its causing a major issue between us. Honestly my preference would be more like once a month or longer, but I felt I was compromising by saying 2-3 weeks, and husnabd is definately not happy with that even. thoughts?
- Asked by Female, 29-35
I think you should just see how things go instead of getting your feathers all ruffled assuming. It might not turn to be so bad as you think. As the kids grow your lives will get busier and you won't be as available all the time. Also this seems to be more about your feelings when it is important that your children have relations with these people. It does appear insensitive to your husband because it is his family and his children too. Expecting at your preference once a month or less seems very seldom to me all for your benefit and no one elses. Make it clear to them you would appreciate them calling first before stopping in. Then you have the choice of determining whether it is okay or not. Need to find a compromise you both can live with and his parents won't be around forever.