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How do you deal with a family member you absolutely hate?
Family & Relationships / 8:31 PM - Wednesday July 28, 2010

How do you deal with a family member you absolutely hate?


- Asked by careyprice31, Female, 22-25

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First of all I dont hate anyone. However, I have one family member that is really difficult. So difficult that I believe that most everyone hates her.
She is bossy overbearing, knows it all and never shuts up.

I just ignore her. Answer if I feel the need , and if she is pushy I flat out tell her to leave me alone because I'm not going to tollerate her behavior.


- Response by lovesgoldens, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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You don't.

Why waste your time on something that brings misery to your life. Just try and avoid them as much as you can, period.

Not knowing any major details, that's my answer for you.

- Response by doubledare, A Creative, Male, 36-45, Artist / Musician / Writer

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kill them, hire someone to kill them or disown them.

- Response by shanegalang, A Rebel, Male, 66 or older, Consulting

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First of all - you should never hate anyone, especially not a family member, or even another human being. Those who are related to family members should also be off limits. But - there are times when people are difficult, and then my advice is to stay away from them, if possible. And don't let them mess up your life. Turn the other cheek, as the Bible says. When they are rude, for instance, just say, "That's the way they are", and dont make a big issue of it. No one really controls other people. We can only control our own actions. But we dont have to stand and take if the other person is impossible. Just leave. If it is a near relative, then you should talk to another relative, and that might help. We all have to work on family relations. You are not alone. But HATE is too strong an emotion to feel, and I hope you learn to let it go. Talk about your "feelings" but not your emotions. Leave them alone.

- Response by parent123, Female, 66 or older, Retired

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I don't. I have nothing to do with them. There are two, a cousin and my brother Sometimes blood is not thicker than water.

- Response by cinders717, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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Avoidance.

- Response by kalicalendar16, Female, 29-35

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- Response by two469, Female, 18-21, Seattle, Science / Engineering

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I completely cut them out of my life. It works great.

- Response by justpassingthru, Female, 56-65, Financial / Banking

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From a distance.

- Response by newyorkjoe, A Career Man, Male, 36-45, Lawyer

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I don't.

I don't deal with people I hate.

Family or not.

- Response by hnygrl, Female, 46-55, Managerial

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You cut them out of your life entirely. It's the only way to NOT have to deal with that crap.

- Response by watbuttondoipush, Female, 36-45, Financial / Banking

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I dislike a lot of family members, and I'm not close to anyone but my mother and father and i'm okay with that. However, the way I deal with it is distance basically. I don't keep in touch with them. I avoid gatherings with them etc.

- Response by mel01234, Female, 22-25, Toronto, Medical / Dental

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avoid them

- Response by bigcurt, A Mr. Nice Guy, Male, 56-65, Pittsburgh, Self-Employed

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You can do one of two things:

One: pretend she doesn't exist. Works for many people. Avoid her. Ignore her annoying comments. Whatever it takes to keep her out of your mind.

Two: pretend you like her. Oddly enough, you may actually begin to like her or at least tolerate her if you convince you brain to do so.





- Response by mlcoast2, Female, 22-25

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I ignore those I hate. And if they cannot be ignored, sarcasm.

- Response by seductivepisces9, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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I choose to severely limit being around my drug addicted sister in law. If it wouldnt hurt my mother in law and wife, I wouldnt see her at Christmas.

- Response by A Guy Critical, Male, 36-45, Military

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Try flushing them down the loo!

- Response by heatherjune123, Female, 56-65, London, Who Cares?

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Keep a polite distance. It takes some skill, but it can be done.

- Response by trawna, Female, 46-55, Toronto, Consulting

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Simple "I don't"! Here's the deal I choose not to be around toxic people even if they happen to be family members. I will be cordial at family dinners, weddings, funerals, etc. otherwise I choose not to socialize with them and to be honest it makes for a more drama free life.

- Response by kdtxchic30, Female, 36-45, Who Cares?

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i tend to not hang out with family members i do not like.

- Response by Female, 36-45, Food Service

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I just don't deal with them!

- Response by spring151, Female, 29-35, Who Cares?

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I don't.

- Response by Female, 22-25

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