Make her feel welcome! I love that my parents can make the guys I bring home feel at ease, because meeting parents can be really nerve racking. My boyfriend was sooo nervous the first time I brought him home. Hilarious to me because I know my parents are great. And he's a grown man.
First-time meetings are usually about getting to know each other, so we youngun's expect the school, family and hobbies conversations, and are generally prepared for it. If she is shy, you may have to encourage her to open up by talking more yourself and telling stories. (Not embarrassing stuff about your son though...save that for the third or fourth meeting!)
Just stay away from ANY and ALL relationship advice! When I met my bf's grandmother, she made the situation REALLY awkward by telling us that two babies-of-the-family (we're both the youngest of three) is a terrible combination because "the babies are spoiled and stubborn, and good luck with that". Then she told us that we would have to learn to compromise and followed it up with a slew of pointers for a long and happy life together, which "probably would be hard anyway, because we are both the babies, after all". Oh, and we had been dating a month at this point.
In the end, you just need to be warm, friendly and relaxed. If you are genuinely happy to meet her, it will show!
- Response by cons22
, Female, 26-28, Seattle