How do you get someone to clean up after themselves?
I am temporarily subletting an apartment for a friend who is studying abroad for a year. His roommate, a self-employed sports agent, has been living in the apartment for about a year. I just moved in about 6 months ago. The agreement was the at the end of the term, my roommate will move out and I get to stay here. My roommate says he wasn't aware of this agreement and has no plans to move away.
Problem I'm having is that this roommate is extremely messy and inconsiderate. I've tried everything short of harassing him and beating him up, to get him to clean up the mess he leaves in our shared living room, bathroom, and kitchen. It often takes him a month to clean his dishes. And yet, he reprimands me for little things like turning the heater up too high or leaving lotion on the doorknob after I use it.
The original tenant says that he is in cahoots with the landlord to evict him when he returns. I feel relief about that, but still uneasy about what to do in the meantime. If I had the power, I'd kick him out. And if I weren't on a lease, I'd move out now. But we are both stuck in a situation where we have to deal with each other.
I guess the question is this: how do I make my roommate clean up after himself? I've tried putting his dirty dishes on the floor next to his desk. I've tried being assertive. I've tried asking him instead of telling him. I've even tried venting to the former tenant-who told him what I said. What is left to do besides hide in my room and vent to you guys? Thanks.
- Asked by Female, 36-45, Who Cares?