What should I do if someone keeps threatening me?
I'm having a problem with an ex-best friend of mine.
We were best friends for two & a half years. Our friendship fell apart for a couple different reasons. For one, she was openly flirting with my husband and two, she got angry with me because I didn't like her abusive, cheating ex-husband who she got back together with.
She asked my opinion, and I told her. Anyway, our arguing escalated & she started sending me e-mails cussing me out, calling me every name in the book & threatening me.
She said the next time she saw me, she'd beat me up. The way I see it, we're both 33 years old, we shouldn't be acting like teenagers!
I tried apologizing to her for anything I said or did wrong, but told her I want nothing to do with her anymore because she crossed the line.
I don't want people in my life whom I can't trust & are nothing but drama & problems. Me, my husband & her happened to show up at the same place just last night. She tried fighting me, but I walked away. Her sister & her friend had to stop her. That's when I called the police. They told me they can't do anything unless she actually does something to me.
I can take her to court, but I'm wondering if I should even bother? The police officer asked me why I didn't call & report her threats sooner. She started threatening me 3 months ago. I didn't report it because I don't want any problems.
In a way, this is all so petty & stupid! But I'm fed up with being threatened. She's the type of person who does drugs & drinks alot, and I know she will try to fight me, if she's got the chance. She knows where I live & what car I drive. And she's the type to have someone jump me, if she doesn't do it herself. And she's been known to vandalize someone's car in the past when she's angry with them.
My question is: should I take her to court & press charges? She needs to learn that she can't go around threatening someone & get away with it. My husband wants me to take her to court, but I'd have to pay for it.
I need some advice here. I just want all this to stop!
- Asked by A Working Gal, Female, 36-45, Student